It is the “Natural Frequency” after all.

As soon as the call gets connected, this individual starts blowing hot and cold every time. I followed this trend of conversation with this individual over the last few years and observed that none of the discussion ended with a happy note.

As this individual belongs to my innermost circle of blood relations, naturally I feel concerned about the well being and feel the need to touch base. But each and every time that the call ends, I keep thinking that why the conversation started in the first place. I would eventually dread to speak to this individual again in the future. The whole of the few minutes that we spend talking with each other – I wonder what was lacking. Well, those dreadful few minutes definitely lack tact, warmth, graciousness and mutual respect.

Is it that we have forgotten the natural art of conversation?

Blame it on the “Natural Frequency” of our system. In the common layman’s term “It is the usual and the most natural way that any living or non living being reacts whenever instigated”.

There is a famous animal fable where a scorpion asks a frog to carry it across a river. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, they would both drown. Considering this, the frog agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When the frog asks the scorpion why, the scorpion replies that it was in its nature to do so.

We cannot alter the natural state from which we have been created. But a part of it can be influenced definitely. It is our core belief system that goes through several influences throughout our lifetime. The environment, the neighbors, our education background, our circle of friends, the life partner we choose – all of them reign supreme in shaping this belief system.

Call it “Quantum physics” or “Finite Elements” in scientific terms. All are quite same in the literal sense. Our overall belief system is influenced at the core cellular level and these information are the experiences accumulated over our lifetime. It is believed that the “Universe” gives us back whatever we believe at the “sub conscious” level.

There is an interesting passage that I came across few years back from a book by Robert Fulghum – “In the Solomon Islands in the south Pacific some villagers practice a unique form of logging. If a tree is too large to be felled with an ax, the natives cut it down by yelling at it. Woodsmen with special powers creep up on a tree just at dawn and suddenly scream at it at the top of their lungs. They continue this for thirty days. The tree dies and falls over.

We may dismiss this theory as some superstitious practice, but we may not ignore the powerful message hidden underneath. Words can have so much power and if we fail to choose the right ones, it can break many hearts. We can kill the spirit of a relationship with poor choice of words.

If we keep feeding our conscious mind with loads of falsehood assuming they are true – deep down at the subconscious level one starts believing them as heavenly truth. These thought patterns may become so toxic with passage of time that it may alter the personality altogether. It is necessary to introduce a thorough cleansing of these subconscious level thought patterns from time to time while we evolve.

It is all about the “Law of Attraction”. We manifest what we believe at our deep rooted subconscious level. “Radiate good vibes” – I heard this from a thinker.

A state of higher vibration consciousness attracts positive things in life whereas with lower vibration consciousness we end up attracting the not so pleasant things. Engaging in creative hobbies or physical exercise or keeping good company are some proven methods to help us “Keep in high spirits” and “Raise our Vibrations”.

Like as they say – “Idle Mind is Devil’s Den!” – So never allow the mind to wander as it may be akin to a “Ship without a sail”.

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A Letter To My Daughter

Dear Beta,

I have always intended to pen my thoughts reflecting my personal experience of life but could never put them in the right perspective. Let me make an attempt now and share with you something that will give you gentle guidance and help you hang around there for as long as you want and be happy.

Life will offer you with your free will choices and it is up to you which one you take. If you can keep yourself firmly grounded, you will always find yourself on the right path. There are times you may need to choose between known knowns as well as certain amount of known unknowns. These are the times when you need to rely on the values that you are brought up with and take a leap of faith. It will be risk worth taking and you will never regret. Trust your instincts and you will get the divine guidance. The bottom-line here is you need to be deeply rooted to your fundamental values and principles and never compromise on them.

Remember your younger days when you were just learning to walk. You started with baby steps and as parents we felt so proud. You did not learn to walk just like that. You fell down you got up and tried walking again. This is about life. You may not always win. There will be situations where the decisions may not go your way. Never give up, hang in there. All you need to do is to pause for a while, reflect and see if there is anything to learn from that situation. This is vital to your future success.

I always considered our lives like a journey in a train. The train starts from one station and reaches its destined station. There will be many who will embark the train midway this journey and disembark to another station on the way or maybe stick around till the very end. Likewise we meet people during the course of our life’s journey in the form of relations or friends. We lose some of them mid way this journey but some may end up hanging around with us till the lifetime.

How we build our network of relations is crucial to our survival, be it from our blood relations or from the simple acquaintances we make. These individuals need not be from the same age group as yours, but all that is important is how you tend and nurture this friendship.

Are you surprised that it is me who is preaching on this matter? You have reasons to be, as you know that I myself have a very small number of people whom I can call as my pals. I simply keep wondering why I can simply not mix with anyone or everyone under the sky. I personally am a very introverted kind of a person throughout and have always preferred to hang around with people whose wavelength matched with mine. Am I too judgmental? Maybe yes, but this is wrong and I am not too proud of this quality of mine. I am trying to mend on this aspect of mine and it remains a work in progress for me. I am too emotional and a hypersensitive person. You should not follow my example. The wisdom here is that we should never burn the bridge come what may. Within your network of friends and acquaintances there will be some who you are very close and some with whom not so much. I think that is perfectly fine and very natural. The most important part is to not judge anyone when you are very angry or when you are too happy with them. The right people will stick by your side always whenever you need them. Believe me the bigger this core group, the bigger will be your sense of security along the way. You will have a greater sense of falling back on them when you need the most with full trust.

You don’t need to solve the entire world’s problem. But yes, you should show sensitivity of what is going around you and try your best to do something if you can help improve on them. A word of caution here is that you should not draw too much of negative energy on yourself while doing so. You can offer positivity to others and do good to them only when you have sufficient to offer. Do not allow yourself to drain out so much when it starts affecting your life in a negative way. You will know very well when it will be the perfect moment for time out, take a pause and replenish back with the good energies.

Believe in your own karma. The divine will always support you in subtle ways. As they have said, you reap what you have sowed and this is very true. Your mother and I would often discuss that there are so many around us who hardly do any good to others but keep enjoying the rich bounties. I personally feel that this is very karmic. Those who are enjoying the bounties may have done some good deeds in the past and god is kind to them now. But I also believe that it is very human attitude to go astray and start feeling ourselves invincible whenever we are offered the life’s richness. These are the people who start hurting others and do everything possible to make other’s life miserable just because they feel that they are in a better situation. They just forget the simple law of our divine nature – “what goes around – comes around”.

It is essential to inculcate good human qualities. We need to inspire others with our deeds and spread the message of positivity all around. You should be remembered for your deeds and good qualities. You do not need to be religious to get closure to the divine supreme. Be spiritual at heart and believe in the laws of karma. It will always attract the good things for you.

I know you have always asked yourself questions on what you want to do next. It is important to strategize on the next steps in life be it professional or personal. On the professional front you need to fathom the areas of strengths in your nature and then choose the right career path. Do not choose something that you do not personally enjoy. You should have short term and long terms goals on career front. Never hesitate to consult individuals who have the right perspective and experience. Make them your Guru as you go along. There should be clarity in what you are doing and how it is going to help you in your longer terms goals. The early years of your career is vital and will help you build a strong foundation for your future. So make the most of the opportunities that you are offered and learn as much as you can. The harvest you sow in the early years will help you reap the rewards later in your life.

As your parents we will always support you with the choice you make and what makes you happy. We never pressurized you with choices that you did not agree with. Getting good scores in school is good but we never felt that it is too crucial to be successful in life. But we have always emphasized that it is a combination of many things that will make you successful. You have always made us proud in academics. It is the finer human qualities that you develop, the leadership qualities, setting a good example yourself, how you are able to inspire others to bring their best – these are the stuff that will bring you the ultimate success.

We have always allowed you to follow your hunch. Well there are exceptions though. As your father I wanted you to take Guitar lessons as I felt you have it in you. There are times when you feel irritated when I am behind you to practice more. I don’t wish to make it sound hypocritical, but there should be some amount of pressure that will help you with an overall holistic development as an individual. You should develop lot of creative hobbies. These are going to help you enjoy the richness of life. As parents your ma and I have always felt proud with your accomplishments. Be it your academics or your hobby ideas, you have always shown the hunger for learning. I always admire your quest in creative aspects such as cooking, baking, writing, public speaking – so keep it up.

Believe in the “Law of attraction” – positive attracts positive. So keep practising your craft and try to remain positive. Do not invest too much in negative aspects rather be positive and manifest only the best. Do not get carried away during the good times, at the same time try to remain calm and cool under trying circumstances.

Believe in yourself, take pride on your personal principles and values, have confidence and know who you are. Do the things that you feel right.

Take regular vacations and recharge your batteries. Exercise regularly and eat the right stuff. There is no harm in indulging in the bad stuff occasionally though.

Enjoy the bounties that the Mother Nature has to offer. Explore new places and the cultures.

Don’t follow the trend.

You are destined to create many beautiful things in life. Sky is the limit for you.

With lots of love and blessings from your Papa.

Mouth Ulcers – Sore Spots

Those mystery little spots in the mouth can be so annoying and once these appear it takes days to disappear. These can be so bothersome that some of us end up skipping the usual meals at times. Well, I can vouch that there are other ways to lose weight if given an option.

These painful blisters can appear on the soft tissues inside the mouth – usually on the cheeks, lips & on the tongue and may take days to heal. Studies have suggested that nearly 20% of the world population suffers from this ailment at certain stages in their lives.

The objective of this article is to just chronicle the personal experience of the author and share with others. I would attempt to avoid clinical terms related to these occurrences and rather focus on remedies that have provided benefits. I have consulted many medical professional over the years and my experience suggests that not enough practical knowledge is available within the fraternity. Have tried several over-the-counter medications but cannot be so sure if they have provided a lasting relief. I realized that long terms beneficial results can be derived only by a combination of life style changes rather than depend on the over-the-counter medicines. A caveat here is that there is no magic pill as a solution for all ailments.

So where do we start? The first step is to get a better understanding of our own medical history and then consider the future remedial measures.

WARNING: One should consider taking expert medical advice if the situation warrants the need and do not resort to the over-the-counter medications.

The very first occurrences of these sore spots that I experienced were during my early childhood days. I never felt too bothered as the spots would usually vanish the very next day. What about my own medical history? I had suffered from Jaundice twice in rapid succession when I was roughly ten years old. It had taken few months for me to recover on both the occasions. My parents suspected that the disease may have played some tricks with the usual functioning of the liver. My senior school days were rather event free with these sore spots only occasionally appearing on the soft surfaces of the cheeks. I would be prescribed medication consisting of vitamin B complex along with vitamin B substances and folic acid. Subsequently I went for higher studies and stayed in hostel accommodations. Those were the carefree days where I felt liberated from the strict restrictions that were imposed at home. All that I was bothered were the class projects and I ended up burning the midnight oil for several days without caring too much about the food I consumed. The semester end exams were definitely stressful. Nonetheless health-wise I seldom felt so challenged that demanded expert medical attention during these years. Occasionally though I suffered from severe stomach gastric cramps that were attributed primarily to poor bowel movement habits and consumption of refined wheat flour products and the lack of dietary fibres.

Turning over another chapter in my life, I got my first job upon completion of my higher studies. It was a completely a different ball game now. Life was no longer that carefree as earlier. I was enjoying my work. But the biggest challenge I felt was the interpersonal relationship aspect at the workplace and in the neighborhood where I lived. This place was far away from my native. It was a complete culture shock for me dealing with people around me on a daily basis and I must say that I wasn’t prepared for that. The sore spots were back into my life with a significantly higher level of severity. I realized that the nature of stress that I was experiencing during this time was altogether different than what I had ever before.

I continue having these spots till this day with the difference that they appear not just on the cheek but on the lips, tongue, gums and even on the cavity surfaces. These take quite a lot of time to heal and taking spicy food aggravate the pain further. That continually painful burning sensation in the mouth can be so traumatic that it takes a toll on someone’s health physically and mentally.

Well that’s all about my sob story. Let me not add anything further but discuss the remedial measures hereafter.

I have observed that prior to the appearances of these bothersome spots inside my mouth, I go through a bout of constipation. Constipation that extends beyond few days is the first alarm bell for this perennial issue. Let me take an example of a car that gets its energy from gasoline fuel. What happens if something goes wrong with the exhaust system? The emitting gases can be harmful to the environment. Don’t expect a good mileage from this car in such a situation. Now you will be wondering what might be the relationship between this and our body. Well, the analogy is simple.

The first and foremost the bowel movement habit has to be fixed. This is fundamental to improving the recurrence of these bothersome sores. Why so? If we do not expel the toxic waste material produced by our body they may get reabsorbed by our system. It is essential that we expel them on time every time. The bowel movement habit can be disturbed due to a combination of several things. It can be lack of fibre rich food in our daily diet. At the very first onset of stressful circumstance in our lives there is a direct impact in our gut flora. The food travelling through our gut system gets digested and is broken down to allow the essential minerals and vitamins get absorbed by our system. This is helped by the presence of bacteria that make the intestine their home. Some of these are good and some are not so good for our system. Our endeavor should be to maintain a healthy gut system. We need to add probiotic substance in our daily diet. Probiotic contain certain microorganism that helps maintaining a good gut flora. It can be in the form of yogurt, curd or a over-the-counter probiotic pill prescribed by a certified medical practitioner. If any of you consider taking probiotic pills from time to time, suggest not having it for too long a duration. The primary goal should be to allow the body parts to function well naturally. The probiotic pills taken for few days will help improve your gut flora then you should give a break and allow your system to work naturally. At times we may need to take over-the-counter laxatives to help with the bowel movement. Adding leafy green vegetables in our daily diet is extremely important in helping with the bowel habits. It has been observed that those following a sedentary lifestyle suffer from this ailment more often, so taking regular exercise helps.

Are we drinking enough water? I am a poor water drinker myself. It is typical in our busy work schedule when we tend to forget to drink enough water. Usually the water content in the food passing through our intestines gets absorbed leading to hardening of the stools and difficult to pass. If we keep ourselves hydrated throughout the day, the excess water helps softening of our stools that is easier to pass.

Let us now understand if the liver is functioning as it is supposed to. The liver and the gall bladder work together to digest the food we take. The liver helps in processing of the food, helps us in detoxification of the chemicals and production of protein elements that are essential for miscellaneous functions of our body. There are times when I have taken help of homeopathy with beneficial results. Combination drops of Chellidonium 30 and Hydrastis 30 diluted in a half a cup of water taken for a few days may be helpful.

The next stage would be to understand if the body is getting the right dose of vitamins from the food that we are taking, particularly the B12 family of vitamins. I was advised to take a blood test to ascertain deficiency of Vitamin B12 and subsequently was prescribed Vitamin B12 shots (4 shots spanned over a month). Zinc and Iron deficiency may also lead to these occurrences. So tests should be conducted to confirm this and medication taken thereafter after consulting a doctor.

I was talking about stress. In the times that we live today, we cannot avoid this. This is a hard fact that I have realized after so many years. Our response to any stressful circumstance is entirely influenced by how we are brought up right from our early learning phases of life. Some of us respond to these situations in a fashion that is matured and move on without much sulking. People who are of introverted nature suffer the most as their response to these circumstances makes them stressed out. This is where we need to undertake certain lifestyle changes. Yoga, pranayama, breathing exercises and other forms of physical movements help us greatly. This is serious business. We need to ensure to have sufficient sleep during the night. Homeopathy remedy – four pills of Kali Phos 6x taken three or four times per day for a week helps improving the anxiety levels in our body. This is a well known tissue salt that helps in balancing our sleep pattern. We should never resort to popping sleeping pills as we may end up making it a habit.

What do we do once these sore spots appear?

Well, I have tried different things at different times.

  1. As soon as I realize that a spot is about to appear, I take Homeopathy Remedy – Merc Sol. 200 (2 drops twice a day for five days).
  2. I keep a tube of Dologel CT (manufactured by Dr. Reddy’s Lab) always handy. This works as an anesthetic agent to reduce the pain and also has antiseptic properties to help heal. It can burn initially when applied to the sore.
  3. Homeopathy remedy – few drops of Nux Vom 30 taken roughly three to four times a day for a couple of days has helped me ease from constipation problem.
  4. Avoid commercially available mouthwash and instead brush your teeth as often as possible. Rinsing the mouth with lukewarm salt water prevents the bacteria to settle inside the mouth and helps with the healing process.
  5. Rinsing the mouth with clarified butter (ghee) helps relieving the pain and healing.
  6. I am told that rinsing with gingelly oil also helps, but I have never tried myself.
  7. Add beetroot and green leafy (spinach) salad in your daily diet.
  8. Take lots and lots of water – stay hydrated.
  9. Having Amla (Indian Gooseberry) in any form on a daily basis helps.
  10. One of my homeopathy doctors used to give a single dose of Sulphuric Acid (Q) whenever I visited him. It worked miraculously and the bothersome spots disappeared the very next day.
  11. Another remedy that I felt helpful is Salt Water Flush of the Colon – also known as Colon Cleansing usually done once a month. It detoxifies the entire gastro-intestinal tract and balances the pH level. Access this Article. Demonstration of Salt Water Flush.
  12. Sole Water: In our busy lifestyle of these days we hardly get the essential natural minerals elements into our system. Drinking Sole Water everyday morning can be a very good habit for the entire family. This helps compensate for the essential minerals into our body. Access the article here.

I will keep adding to this as and when I find something new. I am hoping that you find this material useful.

You may leave your comments if there is anything new on this subject so that others suffering from this ailment get benefited.