A Letter To My Daughter

Dear Beta,

I have always intended to pen my thoughts reflecting my personal experience of life but could never put them in the right perspective. Let me make an attempt now and share with you something that will give you gentle guidance and help you hang around there for as long as you want and be happy.

Life will offer you with your free will choices and it is up to you which one you take. If you can keep yourself firmly grounded, you will always find yourself on the right path. There are times you may need to choose between known knowns as well as certain amount of known unknowns. These are the times when you need to rely on the values that you are brought up with and take a leap of faith. It will be risk worth taking and you will never regret. Trust your instincts and you will get the divine guidance. The bottom-line here is you need to be deeply rooted to your fundamental values and principles and never compromise on them.

Remember your younger days when you were just learning to walk. You started with baby steps and as parents we felt so proud. You did not learn to walk just like that. You fell down you got up and tried walking again. This is about life. You may not always win. There will be situations where the decisions may not go your way. Never give up, hang in there. All you need to do is to pause for a while, reflect and see if there is anything to learn from that situation. This is vital to your future success.

I always considered our lives like a journey in a train. The train starts from one station and reaches its destined station. There will be many who will embark the train midway this journey and disembark to another station on the way or maybe stick around till the very end. Likewise we meet people during the course of our life’s journey in the form of relations or friends. We lose some of them mid way this journey but some may end up hanging around with us till the lifetime.

How we build our network of relations is crucial to our survival, be it from our blood relations or from the simple acquaintances we make. These individuals need not be from the same age group as yours, but all that is important is how you tend and nurture this friendship.

Are you surprised that it is me who is preaching on this matter? You have reasons to be, as you know that I myself have a very small number of people whom I can call as my pals. I simply keep wondering why I can simply not mix with anyone or everyone under the sky. I personally am a very introverted kind of a person throughout and have always preferred to hang around with people whose wavelength matched with mine. Am I too judgmental? Maybe yes, but this is wrong and I am not too proud of this quality of mine. I am trying to mend on this aspect of mine and it remains a work in progress for me. I am too emotional and a hypersensitive person. You should not follow my example. The wisdom here is that we should never burn the bridge come what may. Within your network of friends and acquaintances there will be some who you are very close and some with whom not so much. I think that is perfectly fine and very natural. The most important part is to not judge anyone when you are very angry or when you are too happy with them. The right people will stick by your side always whenever you need them. Believe me the bigger this core group, the bigger will be your sense of security along the way. You will have a greater sense of falling back on them when you need the most with full trust.

You don’t need to solve the entire world’s problem. But yes, you should show sensitivity of what is going around you and try your best to do something if you can help improve on them. A word of caution here is that you should not draw too much of negative energy on yourself while doing so. You can offer positivity to others and do good to them only when you have sufficient to offer. Do not allow yourself to drain out so much when it starts affecting your life in a negative way. You will know very well when it will be the perfect moment for time out, take a pause and replenish back with the good energies.

Believe in your own karma. The divine will always support you in subtle ways. As they have said, you reap what you have sowed and this is very true. Your mother and I would often discuss that there are so many around us who hardly do any good to others but keep enjoying the rich bounties. I personally feel that this is very karmic. Those who are enjoying the bounties may have done some good deeds in the past and god is kind to them now. But I also believe that it is very human attitude to go astray and start feeling ourselves invincible whenever we are offered the life’s richness. These are the people who start hurting others and do everything possible to make other’s life miserable just because they feel that they are in a better situation. They just forget the simple law of our divine nature – “what goes around – comes around”.

It is essential to inculcate good human qualities. We need to inspire others with our deeds and spread the message of positivity all around. You should be remembered for your deeds and good qualities. You do not need to be religious to get closure to the divine supreme. Be spiritual at heart and believe in the laws of karma. It will always attract the good things for you.

I know you have always asked yourself questions on what you want to do next. It is important to strategize on the next steps in life be it professional or personal. On the professional front you need to fathom the areas of strengths in your nature and then choose the right career path. Do not choose something that you do not personally enjoy. You should have short term and long terms goals on career front. Never hesitate to consult individuals who have the right perspective and experience. Make them your Guru as you go along. There should be clarity in what you are doing and how it is going to help you in your longer terms goals. The early years of your career is vital and will help you build a strong foundation for your future. So make the most of the opportunities that you are offered and learn as much as you can. The harvest you sow in the early years will help you reap the rewards later in your life.

As your parents we will always support you with the choice you make and what makes you happy. We never pressurized you with choices that you did not agree with. Getting good scores in school is good but we never felt that it is too crucial to be successful in life. But we have always emphasized that it is a combination of many things that will make you successful. You have always made us proud in academics. It is the finer human qualities that you develop, the leadership qualities, setting a good example yourself, how you are able to inspire others to bring their best – these are the stuff that will bring you the ultimate success.

We have always allowed you to follow your hunch. Well there are exceptions though. As your father I wanted you to take Guitar lessons as I felt you have it in you. There are times when you feel irritated when I am behind you to practice more. I don’t wish to make it sound hypocritical, but there should be some amount of pressure that will help you with an overall holistic development as an individual. You should develop lot of creative hobbies. These are going to help you enjoy the richness of life. As parents your ma and I have always felt proud with your accomplishments. Be it your academics or your hobby ideas, you have always shown the hunger for learning. I always admire your quest in creative aspects such as cooking, baking, writing, public speaking – so keep it up.

Believe in the “Law of attraction” – positive attracts positive. So keep practising your craft and try to remain positive. Do not invest too much in negative aspects rather be positive and manifest only the best. Do not get carried away during the good times, at the same time try to remain calm and cool under trying circumstances.

Believe in yourself, take pride on your personal principles and values, have confidence and know who you are. Do the things that you feel right.

Take regular vacations and recharge your batteries. Exercise regularly and eat the right stuff. There is no harm in indulging in the bad stuff occasionally though.

Enjoy the bounties that the Mother Nature has to offer. Explore new places and the cultures.

Don’t follow the trend.

You are destined to create many beautiful things in life. Sky is the limit for you.

With lots of love and blessings from your Papa.

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Author: chowdhurysudip

I am fond of simple things in life. Right from waking up very early and listen to the sounds of silence when everyone is sound asleep, look at the morning dew drops on the green grass leaves like magic pearls from heaven, chirping of the birds and what else ... read my blogs ... Like they say "God's Love. It is so wonderful."

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